I am from New Jersey. Right now the scene here is pretty small but notcing that its starting to boom. I have also noticed more and more women are in their transitioning phase.
My hair has been natural now close to four years. I last relaxed my hair for prom in 8th grade. Now that I’m starting college, I am fully natural. I transitioned throughout my high school years. I moved to a different town and wore weaves for two years straight (up until my sophomore year). So no one really knew how my hair looked until first day of school in my junior year when it was in two strand twists. The experience was pretty relaxed since I did weave my hair for such a long time. However, I wasn’t really comfortable wearing my natural hair out since the ends were still relaxed, but now I’m rocking it like no other!
My mother at the time was on her second year growing locs so she was pretty supportive. The only part she hated was going back to doing my hair like when I was younger (lol). I found where I previously lived was so conformed to the whole “straight hair is better thing” so I’m glad I wasn’t in that environment while transitioning. However, my new town was so diverse with people who don’t know anything about natural hair, so they always wanted to see a new style and were always intrigued by my hair. It definitely made me feel much better about having my hair out.
Honestly, I don’t know how to do many of the hairstyles by myself and often get frustrated when trying to try something new. Over my summer break I did try to create some new hairstyles which was convenient because I didn’t have to go to school the next day. It also takes more time with the whole shampooing, conditioning, styling process, but I just cope and learn that more time is needed to look more fabulous!
I love that I don’t have to spend so much time obsessing over my hair. When I was relaxed, I had to constantly worry about whether every hair was in place, to what would happen to my hair if it was raining outside, or if I was sweating too much when I was working out. When you get rid of these types of stresses, you’ll start to notice a huge difference in your personality and find that you’re a lot more easy going. I also love how my natural hair feels – it’s soft like cotton candy. Finally, I think it’s one of my greatest accessories. It’s so big, wild and sexy. It just fits my personality.
Since I’m in high school and soon on my way to college I need styles that will last a long time! Therefore I do two strand twists and cornrows up to a mohawk that can last for like two weeks. However, if I want to be experimentive and have more time in my hands I would do bantu knots for an eventual curly fro. I also wash and condition my hair often just to keep it clean and less greasy.
I would tell that person to try and be patient! Just because you research and look on youtube for styles doesn’t mean your hair is going to look like theirs. Do something that’s for YOU! Also, do not be afraid of what others think when you go outside. Most of the time you’ll have positive feedback. And if you don’t, they’re probably hating because their hair isn’t as healthy looking as yours (lol).
This is for the younger girls who are afraid to go natural. Go for it! Nothing wrong with trying. I’m scared to go to college not being 100 percent sure how to do my own hair, but it’s a great time to experiment!